I really need the best advice on this one. I still love my ex but could be falling for my friend.?

my girlfriend of 4 yrs and i decided to break up about a month ago b/c we started to realize that we were feeling more like buddies instead of a couple in a romantic relationship.we never have cheated on each other and have always been 100% honest with each other, but after 4 totally smooth, awesome yrs for some reason she still feels like i would cheat on her which was the biggest kick in the balls i have ever had.So for the past month that we havent been together i have been confiding in a really good friend (girl) from high school that has been the best at listening to me go on and on about my ex and all our problems.the 3 of us went to high school together and my ex has always thought i had a thing for my friend b\c i always talk to her when i have a big problem with my ex.so to make a long story short my ex's jealousy has pushed me away but i still care about her deeply.the irony is that over this month i have started to fall for my friend who has an idea of my feelings..somewhat


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i mean yeah i mean if i were my ex i would be a bet worried too but my ex not trusting me after 4 long years from high school through college is a slap in the face for me..especially after you consider the fact that i have never even came close to cheating on her ever. i mean i not saying i deserve a cookie for being faithful, im just saying that really hurts!


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if you dont trust somone after 4 great non-cheating yrs..whats the point i mean what is the relationship based on??I really need the best advice on this one. I still love my ex but could be falling for my friend.?
my question for you is,which love is stronger, you ';ex'; love or your ';friend'; love. think about that, because you could still have some leftover feeling for you ex, but if you say your falling, maybe that love has a stronger effect on you. It all depends on how strong your feelings are about these people, and it should probably sort itself out if you think about it long and hard.





another question i have is, would you still want to be with someone who doesnt trust you? if your ex doesnt trust YOU, how could YOU trust HER!?! you want to be with someone you can trust and that they can trust you. Im pretty sure you can figure the questions out, you just need to think about your own feelings.I really need the best advice on this one. I still love my ex but could be falling for my friend.?
I would see whats going on with the new girl. If she thought you were cheating on you when you were dating then there is no trust. See what else is out there for you.
without trust, you have NOTHING.





that is the foundation that every relationship needs to be built on.





if you did not cheat, then she is very insecure. let her figure her stuff out.
Some people just do have trouble trusting. It's not always their fault. For instance I was cheated on very badly two relationships in a row a few years ago and it has scarred me for life. It was only more recently being in a very loving relationship (which ended on good terms after we realised we were best friends and not really romantic, similar to yourself and your ex) that I have been able to trust that not all women are cheaters.


I think you should honestly explain things to your ex and try to make her understand your situation. It sounds like you could have a good thing with this other girl.
some people have a hard time trusting people so don't put it on her. I don't think it is a good idea to go out with your other friend. it will only confirm what your girlfriend though about your relation. it won't matter if you don't want to go back to her, but if it is the case, don't mess around with the other girl. you might loose them both.
well, trust is the base of any relationship. but if i would be ur gf i may feel the same like ur gf is feeling because i obviously don't like that my bf talk to another girl about our personal matter.


u told u had break up. then u told u still love ur ex %26amp; after that u r falling for ur friend... ur feelings are not clear...


falling for ur friend is just bcoz she is close to u now when ur ex is not wid u..... being faithful doesn't mean that u can't hurt ur hubbies... plz try to understand ur gf...she is not jealus but she loves u so much .... as a girl i understand i don't like my bf talk to other girl about personal problems however she is our common friend....


u think first...what do u want ??


ur ex or ur friend.......


if u think u love ur ex bcoz she still loves %26amp; u can't hurt her then don't go back to her bcoz you will not be able to give her that love..then hook up to ur friend...





but if u still love ur ex %26amp; think that falling for this friend is just an attraction bcoz of being close ..then i think go back to ur ex..... she is a girl %26amp; it is common to think that u have cheated her.............


discuss this with ur ex %26amp; ur friend also... %26amp; then decide...





i hope i helped...
OK, are you trying to make it OK for you to go ahead and have feelings for your friend. Your friend has always been there when you were having problems with your ex. She knows everything and probably has been waiting for you to come around. Do you want to continue this relationship or do you want to have a life with your ex? It is your choice and your life.I really wish you the best.