Could someone give me some advice on talking someone out of loving someone?

I've got a friend who lives near me, who says she's in love. I suppose that wouldn't be to bad if her boyfriend wasn't a controlling, evil, asbo who takes advantage of her. I'm frightened that she might not see what he's doing to her and he's going to get her in trouble, or worse. Her mother can't convince her so she's asking me to give it a try. Can anyone please give me some advice on how i can make her see what he's really like?Could someone give me some advice on talking someone out of loving someone?
tricky. All you can do is to really give your best in trying to enlighten her but she herself must be able to see the point of view that you're putting across to her. I think you shouldn't use an accusatory tone to talk bad or throw negative views on her boyfriend. It'll probably backfire since she's like so so so so in love with her boyfriend? Tell her that as her friend, you only have her best interests at heart and that only true friends will dare to risk their friendship and tell her things that she might sound insulting so as to prevent her from being taken advantage of and being hurt in the future. Then, tell her from your point of view, you honestly think her boyfriend is ';........';. If she doesn't see it still, give an analogy. Suppose you're in her shoes now and you have that kinda boyfriend. Ask her to be objective and honestly ask herself what kinda advice she'll give you so as to talk you out of loving that person.





Love makes people blind. It really depends on her rationality. All the best though.Could someone give me some advice on talking someone out of loving someone?
This is a real tough one, I am kind of in the same situation myself a family member is in love with a real puke, she knows what he's like but says that she can't help her feelings. No amount of talking is going to get you out of this one. Im afaid she is just going to have to learn from her mistake. She is going to be hurt but that is the only way, you can just pray that the sooner it happens the better for her in the long run and reassure that you are there for her.





Times a great healer.
Honestly theres really nothing you can do. This is something that she is gonna need to learn and figure out for herself. She thinks shes in love and no one, not even you or her mom is going to be able to tell her differently. Keep trying to spend as much time as you can with her more than shes spending with him. tht might help keep her head out of the water
You need to show her how a good man would treat her.


Show her that she can do better.


Good luck... Hope it works out.





I'd pull her aside one day and say ';That guy doesn't treat you right. I'm taking you out to dinner tonight to show you how a decent man should treat you.';


Take her out on a pretend date (make sure she know's it's fake and you're trying to prove a point) and treat her the way she really deserves to be treated.
You can't tell her who she can or cannot love.


All you can do is be there for her, and hint at what a real man is like.


Take her out as friends and just try talking things over with her, be completely honest with her and she might see the light in the end.


Good luck
The best thing you can do is just tell her your opinion and make it clear that you have her best interest at heart and you don't want nothing bad to happen to her..State your case and then leave it up to her..She more than likely will not listen..She is in love and she will fell she is right no matter what..Just be there for her and let her know she can lend your ear at any time..Good Luck!
Make a deal with the boyfriend to stay away from her. I used to love someone deeply but we didn't see each other all summer and it was over. Also, ask the guidance counselor at school to help her, or use a SAP (student assistance program) referral form.
The best thing for you to do is to be totally honest with her about him, and exactly how you feel about him.. Tel her why your going to have words with her about him that he is not good for ..etc..! if she doesn't listen then i know its hard but sometimes you cant help someone until they realize for themselves.. sometimes you just have to let people make the mistakes on there own..





Good luck...x
I'm afraid that, at the end of the day, whatever you say to her, she'll make up her own mind at the end of the day! Sometimes, people are even more determined to pursue a relationship if others are against it. Handle her with care - Good Luck !
The thing is she might love him, but you have to let her know that if he treats you that way, he doesn't love her. She's basically wasting her time. If someone loves and respects someone they would treat the person with respect. You have to let her see things through your eyes.
you need get on her own and explain to her what he is really like. if she see you as a true friend she will listen. try and get her to understand that you are doing it for her own good and you don't want to see her get hurt because you care a lot about her.
If she has her mind set on him there will be no reasoning with her. When a person is in love with someone no amount of talking, begging etc will help. She has to realise for herself that she is making a mistake and learn by that. Have a great Easter Weekend.:)
talk me out of it. please.





























theres nothing you can do. i hate my boyfriend. he treats me like crap.


but im in love with him.


ohh the things a little vomit and a little cutting can do to a relationship.
Love is blind, so if you say something about the way he is it'll just upset her and probably make her mad at you. People learn from their mistakes, maybe you should just let her learn from this one.
being a girl i understand her problen try to know her fealings for him and his fealing for her.dont be frightened og you go to that boy and ask him if he realy likes her.best of luck.HOPE I HELPED.
Say that you found a head in his freezer, and take a pic of a bloody pig head in a bag?
Sadly this may be something she'll have to learn on her own.


However remain a good friend and always let her know you will be there for her anytime.


After all this may come soon.