Please, I need someones advice on what to do with love.

So...I have this boyfriend, whom I love like...with my whole heart. I know I'm only 16, but I can easily see me and him spending the rest of our lives together. I mean, like it took us 6 months to confess our love to each other because we were so afraid that one of us would reject the other.





But...now...I just get this feeling that...he doesn't love me anymore. :( Like just as he logged off MSN Messenger, I said ';I love you Matty, more than anything in the whole world.'; cuz well, I really do. And what he said in return was ';I love you too a lot.';





I mean...it's just not like him to be so vauge. Then like I showed him my profile on Gaia that has a picture of us cuddling in a game called Second Life, and we're staring deep into each others eyes and it's just the cutest picture of all times! And it took me nearly a whole hour to get that profile all set up, dedicated to him, and all he said was ';Awww that's cute babe.'; Then...like on the game Secondlife, he has a friend that's really close to him that he considers him like a brother, and in some part of his profile it has a picture of them two cuddling and underneath it says something like ';I love you bro so much *holds you really close and kisses you.* I never want to lose you.';





I mean....I saw more love to that guy go to him in a single sentence than I see more love go to me in a whole night we talk together...





I just dont know what to do...:( can someone please give me some advice on what to do? I really don't think I can handle him ever leaving me :( Please, I need someones advice on what to do with love.
Oh dear. Where to begin?





Please don't think me rude or condescending in what I'm going to write.





What immediately struck me is that you are being far too dramatic in indulging in grandiose thoughts. You think you have the maturity to know at 16 years of age what the rest of your life will be like, yet it took you six months to communicate clearly because you didn't have the fortitude to risk rejection.





Look, I can appreciate your romantic nature -- I was a lot like you when I was 16 [thirty years ago]. But you're investing too much too soon into your relationship -- your ardor is a wonderful thing for you to feel, but you're allowing it to influence your actions far too much. So what I think has happened here is that your passion for him has grown dramatically and you naturally want to share that with him, but since the growth rate of HIS feelings hasn't paralleled yours, he's probably viewing you as becoming clingy -- even bordering on neediness and/or obsession. If that's the case, it would indeed cause him to withdraw from you a bit.





Then again, this may just be a case of what happens in the progression of love -- infatuation and the intoxicating high of new passion DO wear off after awhile, but if love has been cultivated then roots will have grown, and what's left is a bond that is quite strong and has its own rewards. In other words, puppy love never lasts, but that is NOT a bad thing.





Whichever the case, my advice is to communicate with him -- you can simply never communicate too much in a relationship. And strive to keep your conversation free of drama and/or strong emotions -- tell him how you feel, but don't belabor it too much. And for God's sake, give him the chance to tell you how HE feels as well. Also, if he DOES mention something about you being too clingy or needy, don't take that as an insult -- indeed, truth is better than uncertainty, so by learning the truth you could then take steps to develop some self-restraint in order to get yourselves more strongly in sync with each other. Trust me, diplomacy has a LOT to do with relationships, and that means that both partners need to alter their actions a small amount.Please, I need someones advice on what to do with love.
Mayb he feels lyk he needs some space or somin, try givin him a bit of space for a while if he doesnt improve definitely talk to him cause that sounds a bit unfair how hes treating you, there must be something behind i.
different people have different opinions about relationship. I wish I could have a boyfriend like u, not a cheater. but in a word, if he is kinda guy like that, ud better leave him. cuz u will hurt urself more later on
confront him about that guy he took a picture with.





but SERIOUSLY.





JUST SAY the SAME thing you just said to US to HIM.





to me it sounds like he doesn't treat you right.



I suggest telling him how you feel. Tell him how you feel ignored and hurt, and as your efforts are for naught. Tell him how much you love and appreciate him. Tell him everything you told us.





And if he blows you off, or it still continues, perhaps you should consider getting another boyfriend.





Be strong. Love yourself. You deserve a boyfriend who loves you just as much as you love him. Relationships are give-and-take, and it sounds like this dude has been doing all the taking.





Good luck.
Awww just lighten up a bit :]


And about the picture don't worry about that either


Nothing wrong with that.


And about that Gaia profile well not much to say there, at least he complimented you.


Oh and just one question, Is your BF's friend gay or bi as well? Because if he is then you need to start explaining a thing or 2 to him (BF) just to get things straightened out a bit.


And loosen up a bit maybe your boyfriend is acting that way because your being a little possesive (but I don't really know you so I can't really say that right away. Don't take it personally)


So yeah just lighten up a bit and talk things over I'm pretty sure you'll do fine


GOOD LUCK





(I have to give advice to my Gay BestGuyFriend ALL THE TIME! lol)
Awww you almost made me cry I **** you not! You remind me so much of me and how head over heals I was for this one guy I used to know before he took advantage of me and used me. I loved him so much but he never loved me back.


Unfortunately dude I think this is kinda the same situation. I don't really think he's in love with you like you're in love with him. he may love you as a friend and a really cool close guy but I really don't see anything beyond that. But I also don't know you two and what your relationship is like so its not my place to form conclusions I'm just saying what I see.


Furthermore you need to tell him everything you just told us and how you feel really hurt and see what his response is. I hope I'm not making you flip out but I just don't think hes in love with you like you are with him. Good luck man and let me know how things go for you. I'm routing for you!
Your thoughts about him are, well, unrealistic to say the least. That he should be unable to 'love' anyone else is completely off base...there are, my friend, many different kinds of love...so, you'd better learn that now. As for what he says when he responds to your comments... From what you've written...I see his responses as 'much more comfortable' with you than what he's said in someone else's blog... And, for you to 'rate' his wording is beyond belief... If you don't learn to control your 'imagination' you will drive him away...and then declare...';you knew it all along';... Sorry, Charlie...you need to grow up...
How old is Matty? At 16 you really don't know what love is. I know you feel like you do, and trust me, most of us go through that. Gay or straight (and in my case trans) but trust me hon, you both need to get out and experience the world before you decide what you want. I would reccomend that you talk to each other as openly as you can. I have found love, after looking for over 10 years (started at 16, and now I'm about 26.. girls don't have to give out their real age ya know!) and it's like nothing I ever experienced. It's similiar to the other emotions I had felt for others, but it's complete.. I guess that's about as involved I can be at this hour at night, but my advice is to never stop communicting, and comprimising!





Lizzy