Will somebody give me some advice on the choices of love?

Hard to explain, but ill go with what i can, I never knew what love meant until i met this one girl at school (age 16) I thought i did, but i didn't. So i was all ready to ask her out, but im the shy type so that kind of thing is incredibly hard for me to do. Never had one girlfriend, and im not a nerd, i just didnt want to go through the motions of dating one after another. Then it happened the thing that crushed about, 3 peoples lives, with one action, and one very unexpected. My best friend, as calm, cool, and sly as he could be just moves right past me asks her out, and bam they're instantly in love. You may think, not a big deal wait for them to break up, but you'll figure out my problem later. Anyway, All depresed the next day, i try just once to ask some random girl out, turns out she might as well have been my twin fraternal twin or something We were pretty much EXACTLY alike, and she's completely loopy for me. 5 weeks later, nobody has broken up-cut section to next addictionWill somebody give me some advice on the choices of love?
You do see what's going on here don't you? Everybody is settling with their second best. You settle with J when you're in love with C. C have a mixed up relationship with you and your exbestfriend (which one does she loves more actually?) J settles with you ( a guy who's not in love with her), and your exbestfriend is lost for not knowing his gf is two-timing him with you. Why can't everybody just be stand up and state what they want? In this case, you and C. Make a pick. Start with C. She MUST make a choice. If she chooses you, then break up with her bf and be with you. You should break up with your gf nicely and be just friends with her. Telling you to pick J for being a nice loving gf is hard because you're not in love with her, but you don't want to break up with her because you don't want to break her heart, or you just don't want to loose a gf. It sucks to be the one without a gf in this drama, isn't it? :)


So... I suggest you, tell C to pick one. What's her reason to stay with her bf when she's in love with you anyway? To be fair, make a deal with her, you break up at the same time, let's say tommorow at 5 o'clock or this friday after school etc.


Unless of course both of you just want 2 gf/bf and you're just saying that you want to solve this when what you really want is to have 2 flavours at a time.


Solve this fast, it's not fair for J to be dragged in this whirpool any longer.Will somebody give me some advice on the choices of love?
Sorry to say this but they may not break up, unless they are fighting all the time, and the secret tryst you mention will finally come to an end. Since you mention you have a friend who is loopy for you, why not date her? then forget the girl you first went after. If she really cared for you she would dump your exbest friend anyway. Your best friend that took the girl sounds like someone you should never speak with again. That was cold. I think you should stay friends with J (the loopy girl) and forget the one you were originally going for. She is two faced for being with you both, and she will probably only end up hurting you again, since that is what she did in the first place, whether she originally meant to or not. Next time do not be so shy, you could have had her in the first place if you had not been. I'm kinda shy myself and have learned the same way.