Advice on loving someone who's taken?

hi there.


before you answer this - don't judge me as a ';bad'; person or someone who has no one to talk to. i'm asking here because i know my friends can't relate %26amp; you guys don't know anyone i know. so that's why i'm here.


so anyways.


i'm bi and not confused - i'm sure of it.


i really like this guy Kenny.


and he's really sweet and he's helpful towards me.


we were out eating at lunch (at school we're allowed to leave for lunch)


and he asked me this might make you feel uncomfortable but are you metrosexual? i looked up at him and said i was bi and he's like oh wow haha, i thought i was the only one. he's not lying about it (i've heard from his best friends). we still hug and i talk to him a lot. he makes me so clumsy when i'm around him. but. he's dating a girl - carmen. she's nice to me i guess. but we don't talk so i assumed she hated me. kenny said she really liked me. and whenever we're hanging out at my locker he'd say i have to go see carmen now , i'll talk to you later! and im just fake smiling and saying bye. i feel like asking him if he'll ever leave her. because, i don't know if it shows but i do really like him and it hurts to see them together in the hallway. a lot. they have pictures together on facebook and stuff of them kissing and he had facepaint saying i %26lt;3 carmen.


and that's among other things.


i see him everyday and we stop to talk and we hug casually. should i tell him how i feel?


i'm afraid he might think that i'm making him cheat on carmen.


which i dont want him to do. but. i just cant stand to see them together.


it's not jealousy or anything it just hurts.


it makes me feel like he's two-faced and like he's cheating on both of us.


i'm nice to carmen and she's a lucky girl.


but . what can i do in the mean time?


thank you so much.Advice on loving someone who's taken?
It sounds to me like he baited you into revealing something about yourself he wouldn't've ordinarily known. Yeah, I would feel cheated too. You can still carry a torch if you must, but realize that until this guy makes it clear he wants you (and only you), he's off limits. You're going to get hurt otherwise.


You can still be friends, but keep it cool. I know this is eating you up inside and I've been there. Don't allow yourself to be used, you two can hang out but know that he had designs on someone else and use this opportunity to keep looking.Advice on loving someone who's taken?
just remain friend and leave your option open if he was meant to be with you will have him sometimes you have to play it cool don't tell him how you feel if he feel that way about you it will just happen.
just wait my friend





unfortunately thats the only way unless you're willing to get him to cheat
Dear Troubled One,


I think you should most deffinitly tell the Kenny boy how you feel because you never know how he thinks of you. I would get kind of mad if i seen my boyfriend hugging a girl in the hall, but if you've been friends for awhile she should know that it is ok. :) But you really need to get an idea together on how your going to tell Kenny how you feel about him and that you have feelings for him, and have a back uup plan because you might not know how Carmen is going to react to this. She probably already has a tiny feelings ssomething is up between you, just saying.