I have a really complicated love story i need advice on, it's long but i need help.?

me and my best-friend ariel have been friends since fifth grade, and ever since i've had a huge thing for her. she never seemed interested, and so i wouldn't try, being as i didn't want to ruin what we had. i then got a girlfriend who i went on and off with for 3 years, i liked her in 3rd grade and it never really wore off. during these three years when i wasn't with this girl, i asked ariel out, she said no, and after that i must have asked her 4 more times and she answered no. i felt like a total idiot, but i couldn't get over her. a while went by and i was on my way to virginia when i got a text from ariel saying she did like me alot, i was so happy and i couldn't wait to be with her, then 3 days later she told me to forget it. i was crushed, and for some reason she wouldnt talk to me. a couple months later i was talking to another girl... i liked her but just a little, and ive always been kind of lonely seeing as girls rarely seem to like me. then i found out from ariels frien that ariel said she loved me, her friend showed me all her text messages and i was really confused. so i told ariel i was sorry, and that i loved her so much, but how in the world could i tell the other girl '; o hey the love of my life just said she loves me back...so yeah we cant be together'; i mean it sounds easy but it isn't. so she told me back that shes always loved me.. this hurt me so bad, and after that we didnt talk for 2 months, after that we started talking again and everything was okay, now comes my problem, i asked her out, and she told me straight to my face, she only liked me when i was with other girls... and that i didn't get at all. i mean i understand the concept of jealousy and all, but how could she only like me when im with other girls, but get mad at me when i'm with other girls, then i brake up with the girl to be with ariel, and she says no! shes so confusing so i finally cracked and yelled at her because one day she was being a ***** to me, and i said she was a waste of my time... which i know was horrible to say, but i waited 4 years for her and all she ever did was screw me and make it my fault. i still love her more than anything, and she told me she loved me, but after what i said she won't talk to me. please give me advice on what to do, and if you're going to say something mean about ariel, please don't comment because i love her, and it will just hurt me more. and sorry this was so long :(I have a really complicated love story i need advice on, it's long but i need help.?
i have pretty much experienced this and it really sucked! me and this guy were best friends. he had this girlfriend about the same time we first started talking. there was definitely an attraction between us. but his girlfriend was crazy jealous and he always had to lie to her whenever we hung. she accused us of hooking up all the time but nothing ever happened. and that only caused more drama. somewhere along the line i fell for him. but i knew nothing could ever happen cuz he was with her. even when they broke up (which was really often) nothing could ever happen cuz his gf was PSYCHO!! but somehow he loved her? they went out on and off for over a year and a half. and we still stayed friends. we are so much alike and i love that we are best friends but i also found myself totally in love with him too. it really sucked! after PSYCHO was out of his life we became closer and hooked up one drunk night. it was really weird but i loved every second of it. the next day he told me that the entire time he was with his girlfriend he wanted to be with me. but couldnt see us together like that anymore. after that i was stupid enough to stop talking to him for awhile. i stayed up nights just wanting to be with him so bad but i felt like i lost my chance. i knew i loved him. and i never thought i would get over it. we started talking again when school started back up and everything was different. one day i just totally got over it and didnt even realize it. i found another guy that i am madly in love with now.





back then i felt exactly how you did. i was head over heels in love with my bestfriend. and had no clue how to get him. after a long time i eventually accepted it and realized that life is too short to stay hung over one person who doesnt love you back. everyone eventually has to experience heartbreak. and it makes loving someone else that much better. i promise there is someone else around the corner for you even though you might not think it. its when you least expect it that things will happen. im not a hardcore optimist or anything. just experienced. trust me. itll all get better =]I have a really complicated love story i need advice on, it's long but i need help.?
wait...how old are you? like in seventh grade?
u sound like a sweetheart... uhm well sit down with her and let her kno exactly how u feel and that u kno how she feels towards u and u want a relationship with her but u cant wait forever. dont make it sound like ure threatening her plz. let her kno that u dont kno what else to do to show her how u feel and tell her what u like about her. ask for her honest opinion and u're not gonna hold it against her u jus want her to be happy in the end
Okay, you are in a bad situation sorry. Now Ariel yes you love her an I don't doubt that she has feelings for you however she has friendship feelings for you and shes possive. As soon as you're with another girl she'll feel like shes losing you and try to get you back at all costs which both she and you are confusing for her being in love with you. As hard as this sounds, you need to walk away. The only thing you can have with her is friendship so you need to decide which would be easier, being her friend and having to deal with never having her or not talking to her at all.





If you want friendship etc then get one of her friends to help you talk to her and just sit down with her and lay it all out there don't be angry with her just say it everything about how you feel how shes made you feel and what you want to happen and then let her reply.





Good luck ^_^
Try apologizing...see what happens. And i kind of know where she's coming from with the whole 'i only like you when your with another girl' thing, cause that's how some of my friends feel about the guys/girls that they like. it's a jealous thing. and it's weird that she does it, but whatever. it does sound like she is being a bit of a *****. and i can't tell you why because i have no idea why. it also kind of sounds like she's playing with your heart a little bit. which shouldn't be done..it's a terrible thing to do to someone, and trust me, i know that from personal experiences.
Ok, i think arial sounds kinda diferent from teh girls i know but il give it a shot.





So if she only likes you when you are with other girls then she is abit to complecated but my advise is tell her you need to talk to her and your sorry for what you said. say you are really sorry and you really need to talk to her in private. say a time and a place. like after school my house. lunch our class. what ever comes to mind. then at that time and place tell her exactly how you feel. tell her you said that because of how mad i get when you told me that you only like me when i like another girl. then tell her that you love her and want to be with her. ask her how she feels about you and then after that if she says anything that isnt negative then ask her out. if she says she only wants to be friends ask her to go to the movies together. not really a date but like friends. then make your move at the theator. if she says something like no i dont like you. or i hate you. tell her you will see her around and then when you are alone or with your bff. then you can cry, be sad or whatever you feel like. i know it will be hard to do but i am going threw the same thing.





i hope i help and if you want any more help or any advise from me just email me and i will get back to you in under 24 hours





Bye and hope it works out
she is just seeing if your gull-able and would fall for her again and i'm just gonna be honest with you man shes playing mind games with you i had the same thing its just time to move on get somebody and forget about her maybe she will come crawling again and this time if she does you need to tell her you like her and quit playing mind games with you hope this helps
Gee. Thats quite sad. I have no Idea. On the bright side you could sell the movie rights to your diary.
Some people seem to delight in playing head games with others I don't know that it is on purpose, it just seems to happen I guess all you can do is do your own thing and don't allow her to totally frustrate you I know it is easier said then done
i know it hurts but maybe you should just remain friends with ariel because she's unsure about how she feels about you and just gets jealous when there are other girls around.





you tried to date her but she refuses so just forget about her. i'm no9t being mean i'm just saying that ariel is a bit too immature for a relationship right now, sorry
wow


tough situation


i thought i had a tough one but mine wont even compare --


sorry i ahve no clu what to say =(
sounds a lot like the katy perry song ';Hot n Cold'; just move on from ariel shes not going to be there for you and she will alwasy be changing her mind try to get back together with the other girl or find a new one trust me over time you will like her better and ariel will be a memeory plus the other girl will be there for youand like you for you and not keep changing her mind





hope i helped :)
first of all... there are plenty of fish in the sea... dint settle for one. and, this may be hard to hear but she obviously doesn't love you if she is ok to see you hurting that many times. you need to go find yourself a nice girl who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. She knows how you feel and she has you eating out of the palm of her hand until you tell her enough is enough.
Okayy, I've been in a lot of situations but none like this. Try leaving Ariel a nice long message on her voice mail, or text message or even an email and explain your story to her. If she loves you like she says she does then she will read it and hopefully respond back. Maybe shes trying to tell you something or maybe you just need to work harder to get her and groveling at her feet doesn't work, trust me, just calmly apologize and make it really seem like you love her and she'll come to you but don't push her away by crying, and yelling, and groveling. It will confuse her and make her want to go away. Good luck with her :)
Erm, you were right about this being complicated, since you love her, you might as well as deal with it or leave her. But personally, I think you should get to know people better before you make a judgement, and BTW, 4 years is quite a long time, and also the reality might be harsh, my first love didn't last more than 2 years. from Grade 7-8
Well from what i see, i think she might be a bisexual, i know it sounds far fetched and mean but i think that's the problem, or she just wants to ruin your life.....