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My GF and I have been together for almost 15 months. We broke up for 1 month after I became clingy/possessive. I have since corrected almost all of that but sometimes still let it get the best of me. Things have been up in down. We were so in love and now it seems like it depends on the day of how she feels. I am trying to not be clingy and give her space and when she says she just wants go out w/ friends, say ';okay';. She has never been unfaithful and is not that type. Here is the dilemma. I snooped ( I know it was wrong) and found a journal saying how she has been thinking about her ex (this was like 2 years ago they broke) and how she has mixed feelings for me. It hurt me to read that her ex has been popping into her head b/c we were great before all this. I have a feeling these thoughts are behind her up and down actions. I dont know what to do, I just want to give it my all and dont know how to have her just thinking about me like she was before and get our relationship great againPlease READ I would Love your Advice on my GIRL?
You aren't likely to want to hear this but you started dating her too soon after a break up. People take a rest period for a reason and obviously her's wasn't long enough. That is the time to deal with all those left over feelings.


I would advise you to tell her you are going to step out of the relationship and see how you both feel about each other a year from now.


In the mean time I would get involved with other activities, sports, your own group of friends, school or work, whatever it takes to pass the time, not another romance though, the last thing either of you need to sort your feelings out for each other is to add another person to the mix.


Maybe it will work out in timePlease READ I would Love your Advice on my GIRL?
You were definitely WRONG in going into personal files. He who seeks, finds.





No one can help feel what they feel for someone else. If she is confused, then she is not sure of her feelings for you.





My suggestion is, give it time. Time is your best friend. You can see things and situations more clearly.





Good luck!
Ok Rick....you have issues with jealousy and mistrust. Let's deal with the jealousy first. You've acted possessively toward your girlfriend in the past which resulted in a temporary breakup. Now unless you've gotten some drive thru therapy or read a self help book regarding jealousy, you haven't corrected the issue as much as you would like to think. Think about it, why do you feel the possessiveness toward her? Is it because you feel her slipping away or are you pushing her away with your actions? Did you have this issue with previous girlfriends? And because of your jealousy, it leads to mistrust. Why else would you have snooped and found her journal to read? It's possible as a result of your actions, it's causing your girlfriend to revisit her past. Your dilemma is not the relationship with your girlfriend, your dilemma is your inability to deal with your emotional issues effectively. And until you do, you will have these issues continue with your girlfriend (if she stays) or with any other future partner. Go have a chat with a professional who can help you deal with these things effectively and then you'll be a better you and a better partner to whomever you choose to be with. Good Luck.
Well I would say you havent corrected what you first broke up for. I had a boyfriend who was klingy and he would do dumb *** things like read my journal. I was so damn thankful when I got out of that relationship. Maybe you should pray that she doesnt think like me.


P.S.


Im back with my ex before him now to.
this is really tricky but my advice to you is ....1. dnt be possesive give space and respect her privacy


2...learn to be there when she needs you 3.....control ur emotions and be aware of her emotions 4...be a listener never a critic but a counselar....5....never bring up the issue of her ex unless she wants to talk about it....6...put ur ego aside and try to seek her opinion in any problems or plan or matters that does not involve both of you.....if by doing all these i can guarantee you can come to a concrete conclusion whether ur relationship is working or not..if u get separated always think that it is only for the best...so cheer p bro!