Advice please on this love dilemma?

I have been in a relationship for 14 years that is much less of a partnership than I ever thought it would be. I have been wondering about leaving the comfort of this relationship so I may possibly grow. (marriage, children etc.)


For the past 17 years I have known a man (man #2) who seems to come in and out of my life periodically. 16-17 years ago we had a few flings. I believe the 2 of us were too young then and we never connected more than a few nights here and there. We worked together for a while and get along wonderfully, I have thought of him often and wondered if we may get together ever again. Possibly for a long term relationship. Now he is back, man #2 that is. I have not seen him in 5 years. Through friends our names were brought up which encouraged him to contact me. Our mutual friends tell me “why didn’t you 2 stay together” and “he is miserable with his girlfriend”. For 2 weeks now he has called and emailed me several times. (continued)Advice please on this love dilemma?
Well, to one 30 something to another go out and seek what you want. If you were truly happy with what your life is right now then you wouldn't be contemplating this other man. Maybe you have been with man #1 because of security, money, land, a house...but it's not what you really desire (besides it's not really even your stuff). You are looking for marriage and possibly children and most definitely to be in love. Maybe you ';love'; man#1 but I bet you are not ';in love'; with him. Not to hurt your feelings but I don't think he's in love with you or he would have asked you to be his wife years ago.


Yes, go your own way. Seek out man#2. But before you start picking out china patterns, talk to him and see if he is on the same page. And, for goodness sake, don't rush into something before you heal from the man #1. 14 years is a long time with someone, try being on your very own for a while - stand on your own two feet. Good Luck my 30 something friend. I'd love to hear how it all turns out! Stay in touch!


~And what a jerk for not wanting you on the land title!!!Advice please on this love dilemma?
No matter what happens you and #2 man will need time to get over you current relationship. It wont be easy since you've been involved for 17 years and his wont be easy since he's hurt b/c of the ';called-off engagement';. dont rush into anything yet, find yourself and seek happiness. Happiness is the key to life!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Wow very long but anyway. The guy your with cannot fulfill your dreams and doesn't want to. He has two adult kids doesn't want to marry you (why not after all of those yrs) you want to get married and have kids he doesn't want to. He CANNOT and WILL NOT fulfill your dreams. He want put you on the deed which means he can kick you out whenever he likes. You should go to guy #2 because he is more on your level in that he wants marriage one day and may want kids. Don't waste anymore time. I know it is a big risk but even if there wasn't a guy #2 I would tell you to find one because you will never get what you want in your current relationship. Also, be4 you leave talk to guy #2 about everything. She what he wants and would he consider having it with you. GOOd LUCK
Don't ';settle'; for anything less than happiness. The guy you're with doesn't have the same goals as you, so why keep wasting your time with him? If you have a chance at true happiness with #2, I say go for it! Life's too short to be unhappy.
I think u should follow your heart, if the relationship that you are in


is not feeling right u have to find your self. I'm going throw something similar with my wife except it is the opposite and i'm feeling kinda of hurt. But back to you if he man#1 is not respecting u as a equal than u probably need to go. I also believe that man#2 really likes u and u have to make a critical decision. Me personally u do not sound happy in the current relationship so instead of cheating and lying and lusting for somebody-else just go ahead and make that move because you are going to be wondering for the rest of your life what could of happened.