Love advice, boyfriend on and off, please help!!!!!?

okay this is a really long story, but i'll try and make it as short as i can. so me and this guy jim have been dating on and off since december, and i really do love him. i just have a few problems. the first problem, is i get jealous way too easily and way too often. he has a friend in california who he has hooked up with before in the past, and she came and visited him for a week and i got sooooooo jealous. he said they didnt do anything and i believe him but i just hate the fact they are so close. and then i was looking at pictures on his phone and there was some girl under sheets with no shirt on and i have a feeling it was her, and i asked him what it was and he just took his phone and said stop looking through my stuff. the next time i had his phone the pictures were gone. and then the other day there were pictures of the same girl all over his photobucket. i guess a few weeks ago he said they got in a fight and aren't talking anymore but it still bothers me that he has all these pictures and stuff and i told him that but he said he doesn't delete pictures. :( the second reason, he expects too much from me and i'm only 16. i'm not comfortable doing sexual things really and i've gone pretty far for what i thought i would ever do at this age. if i dont do what he wants though, he'll pout and be all grouchy. i get uncomfortable around him when he wants me to do all of this sexual stuff and then when i do it and then he leaves i just want to cry. besides all of this though, he's an amazing guy. i honestly want to stay with him, but i don't know if i should. advice please :(Love advice, boyfriend on and off, please help!!!!!?
Oh goodness me! honey you DON'T ... I repeat ... DoN'T have to put up with his sh!t! Please do yourself a reality check and a favor and leave him!





My guy won't force me to do anything sexual that I'm uncomfortable with, and I'm 21! You are 16 and you guys should be more like little puppies in love, rather than what you two are right now. I know it's harsh, but another near naked girl in his phone? I'd be jealous and very horrified too.





You honestly SHOULDN'T stay with him. You are a young, capable beautiful young lady who deserves respect. You deserve better. Now stop crying in secrecy, cuz I hear ya! You need someone better. And there are millions of men out there who think and act wayyyyy better than Jim!





Don't hold your breath... you do need to move on.Love advice, boyfriend on and off, please help!!!!!?
if he wants you to go through that then he is not a good boyfriend
hello,





i guess things are easy from a distance....but of course you have two concerns that make you really feel uncomfortable about your relationship and to me they'd each seem serious enough to just stop and think through the situation.





I'd say you have to look at this rather ';practical'; which of course is not really how love works when you're in the midst of it.





Simply tell him to his face that you wont accept him being close enough to other girls to keep their pictures ';where it matters';...you wont feel comfortable about this.





In terms of the sexual encounters - he needs to respect that you wont do more than you're comfortable with and if that makes him grumpy...its not OK.








so unless he says he loves you unconditionally and is fine with this - then for your overall wellbeing you simply need to move on...if he is not easily accepting these points he is not worth staking your emotions on...





and as much as you feel you love him right now...at your age...well you wont be alone if you don't seek solitude out on your own....
You shud leave him.


I was in an on and off relationship with a guy too, an i just recently ended it.


it's the best feeling to feel free.


an honestly he isnt a great guy if he ever makes you wanna cry.


Good boyfriends are supposed to make u smile when u feel sad.


So maybe he is kool as a friend.


But as more you should forget about it.


BEsides those picutres are half proof he might have cheated, or was thinking bout it. which brings out the possiblity he could just be using u. espeically if he is always wanting u to go farther den u feel comfertable.


which is not cool.
m in d same boat as u are...being a girl.your behavior is completely normal and understandable..frankly,i think he's cheating on you..Just tell him that you're not willing to do all those things and tell him that if he wants to be with you,he must understand and respect your feelings.Try to keep a check on him for a while and make sure that he's all into you and is not cheating.and ya please be very careful.May god bless you..best of luck
Calm down, love. Everything's going to be okay. You know deep down inside that you're not happy with this relationship. Talk to your older sister or some friends in order to get through this. Then leave this man alone. Change your number and e-mail address if you have to. Block him on facebook. Get him the hell out of your life before he breaks your heart into pieces. Believe me, love, I know how young men are. When I was his age, I wasn't so nice to the ladies. But I'm sorry for it now.
well if hes going to get mad at you for not doing sexual things with him then hes not worth it if he cant respect the fact that you dont want to. and if he doesnt want you going through his stuff then hes obviously hiding things from you...


maybe you shouldnt be with him any more, or just talk to him about everything thats been bothering you... good luck.