Parents, I would love some advice on how to handle my pre-teen.?

Hello Parents. You don't need to be christian to answer this, but it would be nice to get an answer not only from a secular point of view, but mostly from a Spiritual point of view.





Can any of you help me out by telling me some good parenting books dealing with the pre`teens? My daughter is 10, going on 20, lol, and is really being stubborn on our household guidelines of not talking back, and she is being so mean to her younger sibling, who worships the ground she walks on.


She is an awesome girl, a GATE student with A+ standings, so don't get me wrong. We have NEVER caught her in a lie, but the stubborn hotheadedness is getting crazy. How do I handle this without losing her faith in ME and her trust in me. I want to be there for her, should she really need me when the going gets tough. I want to be her friend, but I know I AM her mother first!! In other words, do you have any suggestions for good books to help me HELP her see the things she needs to work on?


Thanks in Advance.Parents, I would love some advice on how to handle my pre-teen.?
I am a christian teen so I hope I can help.


You sound like a mum who really cares for her daughter and I think you're doing the right thing by asking for help.


Awkwardness is the worst thing. So do try to avoid that.


I'm not exactly sure what kind of books you mean but here are some which my Mum used on me.





Preparing your daughter for every woman's battle


(If you haven't already)


The Lily Series


(A great fiction series about christian girls around the age of your daughter).





The Lily series I enjoyed tons, and if you can go to Koorong or somewhere similar, you could pick up some of the activity books.


There is this awesome one that I used, ';The Creativity Book, it's a God thing!'; Also from the Lily series, and it has activities, stuff to do and even make!





One last book is ';The Christian Girls Guide to the Bible';.


This also has activities, puzzles, quizzes, crafts and tons more.


If you want to become closer to your daughter and let her know that you're there for her, I would try working through these books with her and having fun together in a christian way.





Hope I helped and Good Luck with your daughter!Parents, I would love some advice on how to handle my pre-teen.?
First of all, just make sure you're not all ';buddy-buddy'; with her if she doesn't want it. Some teenagers for some reason like to not be involved with their parents. Second of all, I don't get your question really. So, she's straight A's, non-liar, but stubborn. Subborn how? You need to specify. Don't expect us to know what books you should read when all you say is she's stubborn.
im not a parent but ive been through this stage in my life...and i am a really big christian





i would just try to sit down and talk to her being nice and tell her how you feel and ask her to just make an attempt to change a little bit
hmm...i'm a teenager and a christian and i'll tell ya...it's a weird time. Your finding out who you are, it's a time for change. Just let her have some space. Talk to her and let her know that your ALWAYS there for her. She might open up to you more. Basically, be sensitive, caring, and willing to give her space. Sometimes, she might not feel like talking..I don't always feel like it. Sometimes, I'd rather be left alone. Then I eventually open up. Always after school. I just wanna be alone for a bit..the I'll come around. Patience is key. good luck hun.;)
It's just a phase that all preteens go through. My mother always says that she is in fact here to be my parent, NOT my friend. So if I were you, I wouldn't worry about being friends with her. Instead of yelling at her, tell her that she can't do something she wants to do if she's mean to her little brother or sister. And that if she talks back and doesn't listen to you, she will have to do extra chores, or won't be able to do something fun.
hmmm


im christian and well im a teenager.





I have to say i've lied to my parents before, we all have but ofcourse it wasnt the smartest decision





I love my mommy with all my heart ! best mommy ever, and ofcourse she's my friend but im not THAT tight with her that I tell her about the boys at school etc.





I think you should do the reward system, I mean we all like rewards right?





You can be like, everytime you talk back, or be mean to your sister, your computer priviledges, cellphone or homephone priviledges , desserts or going out on the weekend privildeges may be taken away.





If you catch her doing a good thing like being nice to your sister, helping you out like 3 times? Then you can tell her that you will reward her by taking her to the store to buy something of her choice but make sure she earns it.





I mean If i had that system I would love it ! haha i wouldn't mind being nicer to my brother for a few extra clothes or something =P





Just remind her that you will always be there for her no matter what she does even if its the worst thing possible (:





GOOD LUCK !
School grades are probably the best indicator of how your child's life is going. If she is being bullied or if she is being stressed out, her grades were suffer. The reason she is acting out a little bit is simply hormones. When children reach puberty or close to puberty, they will usually start to act out. This is usually a sign that everything is going ok. As for being youchild'sds friend, if she wanted to hang out with you she would approach you about it. It is normal for a child at this age to want some space from you. Just try to be involved in her life by knowing what is going on at school and with her friends.





I would know alot about this, considering I'm 14. :)
If I were you, I would just go straight for the teen books. Kids usually act like pre-teens for a couple of months until they start becoming adolescence. I would just openly talk to her about how her ';hot-headidness'; is annoying you. If she continues to do it, give her a lite consequence for her attitude and the way she treats her younger sibling. If she continues to do it even after a consequence, give her another one, but one a little more serious. Continue talking to her about it. If you do not solve the problem now, it will get worse and worse and it will become a habit of hers. Good luck!