I need advice on this difficult love situation?

I have a guy friend for mths but we live in different cities and never see each other. We keep in contact by chat but not often..every couple of wks. Once a while back we kissed but havnt talked about this. I'm trying my best to forget him but can't. I even go on dates with guys that ask me out (luckily I get asked out a lot) but even with the best intentions, my mind goes to this other guy at the end of the night and I'm still in love with him. What should I do? It's wearing me out emotionally. Sometimes he greets me on chat, but I now seem to greet him more. I've heard that if a guy stays in touch after something physical with a girl, then he is interested in her. Is this true? I've invited him to visit me but its difficult due to heavy work loads %26amp; I'm not sure if he is just putting me off. I don't have the nerve to ask for fear of rejection...what can I do, I'm so disappointed and can't find a way out of this situation?I need advice on this difficult love situation?
If a guy stays in touch with a girl after something physical with her doesn't necessary means that he's interested in her. It could mean that he knows where is can get his jollies.





You must take a chance to find romance.





Even if he rejects you, then at least you'll know that you tried. Then your mind can be at peace and you can move on with your life.





Nothing ventured, nothing gained.I need advice on this difficult love situation?
that same fear of rejection will keep you thinking about him for the rest of you life if you don't act now! spit is out my friend and you will feel better, it is better to let him know you love him and get a straight answer than just sit down and imagine you two together in a fantasy island, be realistic. And trust me if you get a negative answer which i hope you don't, you life will be so much at peace and you can enjoy having ur date's without thinking about him at night.! hope this helps
u gotta ask! i been there done that trust i know exactly how it feels and it took me a whole lot of courage to actually ask the guy.but after he answered my question, which i thought would be heart wrenching disappointing yada yada, it actually made me feel better! he said he has no feelings for me but i was cool cos ive got the answer. and believe it or not, that answer actually made STRONGER! what doesnt kill you only makes u strong gal
just ask there is no harm in doing it and then you will no how he truly feels


but if it looks like he's not interested just dont talk to him for a while and see how he reacts


it might tell you something


then you can get over him and find someone better who can undefinately take you mind off him
AW NO! I've been in the same situation but now it's all good! But you should ask him if he's just putting you off or if his is actually engaged in work ';because if you don't wanna see me then you don't have to come';. I'm a guy and when I liked this chick who I wasn't sure if she still liked me she said just that, in a relaxed but slightly gutted way and woh did it pull on the heart strings! You'll just dig yourself into an emotional pit if you don't give him a chance to see what you feel.


And yes I believe that the guy is too nervous to talk about the kissing cos he doesn't want to seem like it was something special or something he doesn't get often. It's just how guys work.


But I believe from the sounds of things, that he longs for you to kiss him again, he just doesn'y wanna admit it
How do you know he is single and available.Ask him straight out.You might then answer your own question